Wednesday, September 10, 2008

My hands are full!

My good friend dikny commented on my previous post..

"wah...u have your hands full now huh..."

Yes, my hands are totally full now. With my 4 girls, a husband & a new pet. To make it more interesting... I have news for you. My helper is back in her hometown!

Friday night, my house phone rang. I answered the phone & there was this man with an Indonesian accent. He mumbled my helper's name & I had no problem at all passing the phone to my helper.

I headed to the kitchen & prepared something for me to snack on. My mango was left unpeeled for I heard this weird sound coming from my helper. She was crying! Oh no! Bad news from home...

Later I found out that her daughter was not well & her siblings requested for my helper to return home earlier. (She was supposed to fly home on the 17th for her son's wedding & also raya). None of those people she talked to really explained to her what was wrong with her daughter. Come on... that pissed me off. If you want to break the news, tell off everything. If not don't mention it.

So, she was left with the news that her daughter was unwell. A severe headache.. That is no headache. Must be serious than that to actually call my helper to return home.

We tried to call her daughter & son-in-law but failed. I can imagine how my poor helper felt that night....

The next morning her son-in-law rang & woke us up. I was still in bed & could hear her crying again downstairs.

After freshing up, I found her still weeping. Her daughter is diagnosed with cancer (she said kanker which I believed was cancer) & had to be operated on Tuesday which is today. How can I not allow her to go home? She has been very good to my family & the girls especially. She is almost family. I discussed with HB & he agreed that she should go home. He changed her flight ticket (of course, needed to pay for the penalty..) to Monday the 8th, a day before the operation.

Lots of ifs came across my mind. It is indeed a gamble for letting her go back together with all her money. We hardly owe her anything. If she decided not to return, she would not lose a thing but out trust. I am praying for her daughter's recovery & also my fate. Will update about her & the daughter...

As for me, Friday is going to be challenging. HB is off duty from Monday & tomorrow evening he's going off. The girls are given a 3 days break due to the UPSR exam. Only on Friday that all of them but Nadeen are schooling. Mind you Yasmin is in the morning session & Wardah, in the afternoon. All need to be sent & fetched. Both Yasmin & Wardah are fasting which means I have to wake up at 430am to prepare sahur. What if Nadeen wakes up? What if Balqis is awake too?

I am now at my PIL's house. Able to rest a bit. The girls were not clinging much to me. They had their grandparents to entertain them. OK. Better get some sleep. I had a nap this afternoon with Nadeen which explains why I am still wide awake now. Will update whenever I can find the time again ;-)

15 comments:

Yatie_T said...

Hi Jabishah,
sorry to hear about your helper and hopefully she'll be back. Congrats! Better be careful, having a son is sucking all of your energy out of you. hahaha... Oohhh... Josh has teeth like Nadeen but Josh bottom teeth has a big gap, not sure why or if it's okay.

Yatie_T said...

Oh yeah... Selamat Berpuasa!

lizamurni said...

Ja,
I understand exactly how you feel. I've been there and done that but still in there and doing that, actually, hihi...

I know you can handle it in a breeze coz you are a strong lady and a super-duper mom...

Waterlily said...

Uh Oh..that time has arrived ye? We sort of discussed about this before, about your maid balik kampung. Tak sangka pulak balik earlier than.

Hmm..kalau betul lah anaknya kena 'kanker' I wish her speedy recovery, semuga ditenangkan hati ibu yang gundah gulana tu...kita pun ada anak, so we can relate to her feelings and situation very well.

Tapi if that was just a gimmick to go back earlier, isshh...tak tau la apa nak cakap? Sanggup mainkan cerita anak kena kanker lagi!

Whatever it is Ja...selamat berjuang heh heh...berjuang di dapur, berjuang dengan anak2, berjuang mengemaskan rumah...siram pokok bunga, nak 'melayan' lagi...adeiii..buleh migraine beb! Good luck and take it easy, one step at a time.

Cheers!

Dalam Dakapan Ibu said...

Hi Ja,
My God, this is the 4th story in these 2 months that I heard a story on Kanker and maids! In all incidents, semua wanted to go home early coz their mak/anak ada Kanker.

Coincidence sangat kan?

But whatever it is, if she was not lying, I hope her daughter gets better.

Alahai... you must be a Supermom lah sekarang ..hehehe...

Take care :)

MrsNordin said...

Good luck Mommy! But you know what? After a while, you'd probably enjoy it and wish your maid will never return!

jabishah said...

Hi yatie,

Yup, I hope she will come back. She called on Tuesday morning frm home. That's a good sign kan? InsyaAllah she will come back.

As for Josh don't worry about the big gap. It will make it easier for his permanent teeth later to pop out.

jabishah said...

Hi dikny,
Tu lah... InsyaAllah ok lah. Ni pun I dah letih ni. Yasmin & Wardah not at home at the moment. Balqis is with me doing hr homework & Nadeen ni tak nak tidur2 lah pulak! Sigh...

jabishah said...

Waterlily,
Sememangnye tgh berjuang ni! Penat tau berjuang di bulan puasa ni. But today is not that bad because the elder girls are not schooling. Boleh lah tolong apa yg patut.. They made up my bed this morning. Quite impressed..;-)

jabishah said...

Hi Kak Ja,
Wa.. kanker excuse ni tgh in lah kiranye. Hmm.. tak tau nak ckplah. But my helper ni mmg anak dia slalu sakit dulu. Wallahualam...

Mmg superdupermom skrg ni! Penat...! HB pulak takde. Saturday night baru balik. Sigh...

jabishah said...

Mrs.N,
Tx for the luck. I so need it! Wld I enjoy it? We'll see... ;-) Ni pun rasa nak semput.

wanshana said...

Hmmmm, sometimes they will come up with all kinds of stories so that they can go back home, especially nak dekat raya ni...

I've heard stories like mak bapak sakit (when sebelum tu kata they had passed away long ago, etc!), husband nak kawin lain lah, rumah terbakar lah, etc. Wallahua'lam...

But, if betul her daughter's not well, let's pray that things will be okay for her and the family, insya Allah.

In the mean time, Selamat Menjadi SuperMom!!!

U.Lee said...

Hello Jabishah, kesian la read of your maid.
Sometimes I wonder why those bad people don't get these kind of health problems but good people?
Sad.
Hope her daughter will recover soon.
Captain ada chuti, huh? Boleh pergi shopping beli baju for Raya, ha ha.
Hugs to Nadeen, Lee.

jabishah said...

Hi Kak Syana,
It did cross my mind. But I trust her. Please don't make me lose the trust. Diorg ni kadang2 kita treat mcm family pun boleh backstab us.

Anyway, am coping quite well supermomming ;-) Lama lagi tu dia nak balik. Kuruslah I...

jabishah said...

Hello uncle,
Yes true what you said. But I hope my helper tells the truth abt her daughter & kanker. But the way she explained on the procedure of the operation, I doubt her lying simply to go back home earlier for raya. Heard lots kind of such stories...

HB will be back tonight & off for 3 days ;-) Raya shopping done before Ramadhan.

Have good day.